Silence or Violence Archives

Our DNA Says A Lot. Why We Resort To Silence Or Violence

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How to Disagree with Your Boss (and Not Get Fired)

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If you’re stuck in an ongoing problem, maybe you’re failing to recognise a conversation you need to have. Here’s how to generate the dialogue that will solve your issue.

Why We Work On Things We Know Will Fail (and How To Stop)

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Many people are reluctant to speak up when they see a problem, or they speak up so harshly they make the issue worse. These behaviours creep into our organisations, destroying our culture, relationships, and productivity from the inside out. Here’s how:

Why You Should Have the Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding

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All of us are stuck somewhere in our lives — personally or professionally — and we’re not getting the results we want. What moves us beyond the dilemma is the ability to hold an effective conversation.

6 Surprising Communication Goals that are Damaging Your Conversations

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Some of the behaviours we’ve been taught our entire lives are the exact behaviours that keep us from healthy conversations. Are you working towards goals that seem right, but are actually compromising your results?

How To Have The Conversations Your Brain Can’t Handle

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Silence and violence aren’t personal flaws — they’re a result of biology. Here’s how to navigate your natural reactions to get the results you need:

How To Have a Tough Conversation Without Getting Mad

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In tough conversations, we often shut down or get angry — neither of which produces the results we actually need. Here’s a different approach:

Warning: Crucial Conversations Are Hard. (Here’s how to make them better.)

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The Fight-or-Flight Response and Tough Conversations

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When in a stressful situation, like a crucial conversation, our body responds by releasing adrenaline. This shuts off the logical part of our brain and activates our more primitive nature. This is really helpful when dealing with a vicious predator, but when handling a delicate issue with our boss or spouse, the results are almost never positive. Learn how to overcome our nature in tough conversations with these skills: